top of page

Seeing our shadow(s) and uncovering the Truth of who we really are

The spiritual path is not for everyone as it requires courage and perserverence. Contrary to popular belief, the spiritual path isn’t all love, compassion and feeling exhalted all the time. Yes, the spiritual path can be serendipitous, magical and full of beautiful experiences, but it can also be full of uncertainty, doubt and hidden traps.

In the previous blog post, I talked about embarking on the spiritual path. It is an inner calling to return to our True Self. I suggest you read this first to have a better understanding of how our shadows are created.

What is our True Self?

Our true self is what remains when we dismantel everything that gave us our identity. Our true self is pure consciousness and pure consciousness is love: the ability to give love, receive love and be love!

Then what is the ego?

The ego is the mask that we have put on to survive in this world. When we were initiated into the world of separation, we created an identity based on comparing ourselves with others. How do we measure up? Are we better than or less than?

When our ego is running the story that we are less then (others) we become insecure and superimpose another behaviour on top of it (out of shame and to hide our less perfect parts). We may become arrogant or perfectionists or people pleasers.

When our ego is running a story that we are better than (others), we may feel entitled, extremely judgmental and unable to feel empathy.

So, when we begin the inner work processes of self-awareness, self-understanding and self-transformation (which finally leads to self-love) we will discover that which has (until this day) been hidden from our view (and thus remained in the shadow). What we may discover is that, deep down, we feel that we:

  • are unworthy (of love)

  • are not good enough

  • never measure up

  • feel all alone (abandonment)

  • are deeply flawed

to name a few...

The coming to light of our unconscious beliefs can cause us to feel impatience, frustration and full out anger, but also sadness, grief and full out despair may surface. It is therefore important that you have a coach or mentor or peer group to help you and guide you through it.

The key to navigating these heavy emotions and the dark thoughts that accompany them, is to witness them without getting involved (like observing them as though you are an outsider looking in). This is a skill that must be developed, for without witnessing and being neutral, we will assign meaning to the process and remain stuck. Assigning meaning will give it energy, either positive or negative energy. What we are feeling or who we are being will be labeled as good or bad, true or false, right or wrong etc. etc. Saying something is bad will assign it negative energy and saying something is good will give it positive energy. It is a constant push/pull and the energy assigned, whether it is positive or negative, will keep it in place.

True witnessing, however, is looking at something from the place of an objective observer: what is happening is not good nor bad, it simply IS. Witnessing is THE KEY to releasing false beliefs, for witnessing releases the energy that we previously assigned to it.

Whereas assigning meaning (in other words judgment) is an act of the ego and not loving towards oneself as it creates separation and therefore goes against Nature and Consciousness, witnessing is a form of (self)love. We simply observe what is happening and lovingly allow it to unfold. It IS happening, so why resist it?

Lovingly allowing the present moment to simply be, is being kind and loving toward ourselves and all of creation. Nothing else is required, yet, the ego is cunning and can trap us into thinking that

  • it is too hard,

  • we are doing it all wrong,

  • we are not making any progress,

  • we are deeply flawed,

  • we'll never make it

  • is it really true?

  • I was happier before.

Recognize these thoughts, witness them and let them go.

Discovering what lies in the shadow is actually GOOD NEWS. Why? Because it is uncovering everything that is FALSE about us and covered up who we truly are. This false programming has been running our life, keeping us small, stuck and unhappy. Yet, in truth we already are everything we desire. We are whole and complete. We are LOVE. We are LOVED!

During this process of self-awareness and self-understanding, we begin to develop a healthy ego. By a healthy ego I mean an ego that

  1. has discovered the subconscious beliefs that run our actions and reactions,

  2. has faced and can now manage the (borderline) addictions that strengthen these subconscious beliefs, and

  3. takes responsibility for unconscious behaviours that have created the past experiences and results in our lives.

A healthy ego has integrated these unconscious parts into a healthy, balanced and compassionate outlook on oneself and others. We will no longer be victims of our unconscious addictive patterns, running to fix this and that, seeking confirmation of who we are in order to feel good about ourselves. This is the self-transformation that happens naturally from releasing unconscious patterns and tendencies.

We will start to lovingly accept ourselves as a whole, including the shiny parts as well as the crusty bits. This is the self-love that I spoke of before. When we reach this part, life becomes easier and more meaningful. This is when we will be able to manifest our deepest desires without any effort, attracting it to us instantly. This is when the beauty of who we really are shall be revealed.

5 views0 comments

Related Posts

See All
bottom of page